February 3, 2012 by Scott Mayes
Here’s a little something I ready today that made me think.
Kim John Payne, author of “Simplicity Parenting,” responds to how she decides what to say in front of her children.
“Before I say something in front of my children I will ask myself three questions:
• Is it true? To this I can usually, though not always, tell myself, with a sense of righteousness, a firm ‘yes.’
• Is it necessary? Now I pause. Do my children really need to hear this? They will know soon enough the world is flawed; for now a good world will do just fine.
•Is it kind? This is altogether harder. Is it kind to this person to say this? Am I modeling being accusative rather than inquisitive, dehumanizing or humanizing?”
Wow! What great food for thought.
When it comes to things like being mean-spirited and getting involved in gossip, our kids could really use a good example.
Guess what else this brings to mind? Driving.
If you swear at other drivers in the car or even show them one of your fingers, it may not be the best thing for your kids to hear or see.
And, what about television?
Keep in mind that what you’re listening to on TV, they probably are too.
They are counting on us to filter certain information. And, well … we may not always do a great job.
Start small. Start a day at a time.
Focus tonight on what your kids hear and do your absolute best to make sure it’s in their best interest.
• An editor by day, Scott Mayes is also dad to Matthew, Micah and Nathan. He’s a high school parent, a youth basketball dad and changes diapers. He has lots of choices to make and six ears to protect.